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Self-Help Resources and Links

This page includes many useful links that will help you learn more about many common personal problems. Please realize that it is advisable to verify the accuracy of what you read on the Internet by consulting other independent and reliable sources, including the clinical staff at the UNCW Counseling Center.

These information sources are offered as an educational supplement and are not intended to replace counseling with a qualified professional. If you (UNCW students) have personal concerns that you would like to discuss, please contact the Counseling Center at 962-3746.

Staff Reading Favorites

It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How To End The Cycle by Mark Wolynn.  The evidence is compelling: the roots of emotional difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains—but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited—that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn’t Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood.

The Relationship Cure: A Five-Step Guide for Building Better Connections with Family, Friends, and Lovers by John Gottman, Ph.D. is another superb book by this author about improving intimate relationships. What distinguishes Gottman's writing from that of other self-help books is that it is based on research findings from his extensive studies. He states that his five steps will help you build better connections with the people you care about.

The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, M.D. Confronting and solving problems is a painful process, which most of us attempt to avoid. The very avoidance results in greater pain and an inability to grow both mentally and spiritually. Drawing heavily upon his own professional experience, Dr. M. Scott Peck, a practicing psychiatrist, suggests ways in which confronting and resolving our problems--and suffering through the changes--can enable us to reach a higher level of self understanding. Dr. Peck discusses the nature of loving relationships; how to recognize true compatibility; how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become one's own person; how to be a more sensitive parent.

Other Resources

Psychology In Daily Life


Off-Campus Referrals

Please contact the Counseling Center at x23746.

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